Kay grew up in the Dallas area and attended Richland College and Texas A&M University. First making her career in the restaurant industry, she left the corporate world in 1991 to pursue an opportunity to serve in the non-profit sector, specializing in church accounting.
Kay married Hank Ashley, a South Garland native, in September 1975. They have 2 children, Joshua and Jordan, and 4 grandchildren, Sophia, Jared, Kenzi and Alice. The Ashley’s all live in the south Garland area.